Real Time Work
Nik Wheatley
Real-TimeWork
"Becoming aware is the first step.
What you do next determines whether anything actually changes"
The Opening
For almost a decade, I’ve been working with Ayahuasca and other psychedelic medicines, both in my own journey and in guiding thousands of people through trauma, ceremony, and integration,
If I’m honest, when I look back at my early years, I was lost
Lost in trying to fix myself, lost in searching for something that would finally change how I felt, lost in patterns I couldn’t see but was completely driven by
The medicine opened my eyes, but it didn’t suddenly resolve what was underneath
If anything, it made it clearer
Over time, the real work became less about the experience itself, and more about what was still there afterwards
The patterns, the reactions, the parts of me I would still avoid or get caught in
And truthfully, that doesn’t just disappear
Even now, I still find myself in those patterns at times
The difference is, they can be met, understood, and worked through in a way that actually changes how you live
That’s what this space is built around
Not more seeking, not more experiences, but a grounded place to meet what’s here and move through it properly
Come as you are,we’ll slow it down and walk through it together.
In your experience, did the medicine actually heal you
or did the same patterns come back to the surface?
You’re often sold the idea that this is a one-stop journey into freedom.
But that isn’t the truth.
The medicine can open your eyes.
It can show you things clearly, sometimes for the first time.
But as you come out of that experience, you begin to see what’s been there all along.
The patterns, The pain, The anxiety.
The ways you’ve been operating without really seeing it.
And those things don’t just disappear.
If anything, you become more aware of them.
To know yourself more deeply isn’t just to see something beautiful, it’s to recognise everything that’s been running the show underneath.
And without working through that, nothing really changes.
This is where that work begins.
What Is Real-Time Work
Real-Time Work is a space for ongoing, grounded inner work. Not something outside of life, but life being met directly.
What you're feeling, what you're reacting to, what keeps showing up, that's the work. Not in theory, but as it's happening.
The patterns you keep falling into, the reactions that feel automatic, the ways you've learnt to cope — they don't shift through more thinking or trying to fix them. They begin to change when they're met directly, as they arise.
"The structure is simple. The work isn't always easy. But it's real."
What Is ERPT
Embodied Relational Parts Therapy™ is the approach behind everything you'll find here. I didn't design it from theory - it came from years of being in the room with people, and from walking through a lot of my own pain first.
At its core, ERPT is built on one simple observation: understanding your patterns isn't the same as changing them. People can have profound insights, even life-changing experiences, and still find themselves reacting in the same ways weeks later. The awareness is there - but nothing has actually shifted.
That's the gap this work addresses.
Rather than talking about what's happening from a distance, ERPT works with what's alive in the moment - in the body, in the breath, in the space between people. Old experiences don't just live in memory. They live in how we hold ourselves, how we react, what we avoid, how we speak. That's where the work goes.
It's not about fixing you or turning you into someone new. It's about meeting the parts of you that have never been properly felt or expressed - and allowing them to move. Not through force, not through understanding alone, but through actually staying with what's there long enough for something to genuinely change.
That's what makes this different. And that's what you'll find in this space.
Who This Space Is For
"These spaces are for you if you’re drawn to a more direct and honest way of working with what’s actually going on"
This is for people who know something needs to change, but still feel caught in the same patterns.
You might have done therapy, personal development, or worked with medicine.
You understand yourself more but when it comes to real life, the same reactions and loops are still there.
You’re tired of understanding what’s going on, but not actually shifting it. You keep noticing the same patterns, but can’t seem to move through them.
You might feel stuck somewhere between awareness and real change. You’re done chasing the next experience, hoping it will fix things.
And there’s a part of you that knows something else is needed.
This isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about being ready to meet what’s there, even when it’s uncomfortable, and work through it properly.
Where to begin
There are three ways to work with me. Each one is different in depth and format - but all of them come from the same place.
The weekly space
A group container, 1–2 times per week on Zoom. Ongoing, grounded work at £30/month. First month 50% off.
1-1 work
Individual sessions for those who need more focused, personal space. Work at a pace that's right for what you're carrying.
Retreats
Ceremony, integration, and grounded support - not as separate parts, but as one continuous process.
Testimonials
In their own words
I didn't expect to feel as safe as I did. I've been in other spaces and nothing comes close to the level of care Nik brings. He notices things you don't even notice yourself. I left feeling genuinely seen for the first time in a long time.
June
The ceremony itself was so powerful, also the integration with Nik is where everything landed. I've done plant medicine before without that support and it didn't help. This time something genuinely changed. Thank you
Dave
I didn't know what to expect, my previous experiences weren't great. What I found was completely different. A level of care and presence I hadn't experienced anywhere else. Nik really sees you. I felt safe in a way that let me go places I'd never been before.
Billy
I was in a dark place when I found Nik. I'd tried everything, nothing reached what was underneath. Working with Nik was the first time I felt truly understood. No judgement, just someone who sat with me in it. Something shifted that I'd given up hope of ever shifting.
Steve
I spent years running from myself. Substances, anything to avoid what was there. I didn't believe anything could change. What I didn't expect was someone who genuinely got it. No distance, no script. Just real presence. He sat with me until I could sit with myself. Everything changed from there
Lilly
The addiction was never really the problem. Nik helped me see what was underneath - what had never been heard or felt. I'd been managing my pain so long I didn't know another way existed. This work helped me understand why I started. From that place, something real finally shifted.
Ben
About Me
I grew up in chaos. Addiction, absence, pain that nobody talked about - I learned to survive long before I learned to live.
For nearly a decade I searched for something that would finally change how I felt. Plant medicine, spiritual seeking, every tool and teacher I could find. Some of it opened things up. None of it resolved what was underneath.
What changed everything was turning towards what I had spent my life avoiding. That's where this work was born - and it's what I bring into every session, every space, every person I sit with.
I've held space for over a thousand people through ceremony, deep trauma work, addiction, and integration. I'm a trained life coach, the creator of ERPT, and someone who has genuinely been in the places you might be in right now.
If Something Resonates
If you’ve read this and something has quietly landed, you don’t need to rush into anything or have it all figured out.
Sometimes it’s just a feeling that something here makes sense, or that you’re ready to look at things a little more honestly, at your own pace.
That’s enough.
If you’d like to reach out, whether it’s a question, a conversation, or just to feel into whether this is right for you, you’re welcome to.
I’ll come back to you personally, and we can take it from there, simply and without pressure.
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